This week I learned…
Christmas eve, 2013, I flew to Seattle to help move my dearest friend, Lexy, into hospice. As I helped care for her through the end of her life, we shared stories, dreams, jokes, and simply spent as much time with each other as possible. I learned to do things I never thought I’d be capable of doing. Jokingly, I told her that I didn’t mind, since I learn something new every day and that day was the day I would learn to change a catheter without leaking on a hardwood floor. Right before the new year, she offered up this challenge: “You learn something every day? Prove it.”
Thus was born the 365 Lessons of Hope project.
Lexy almost made it to March, and I read my daily lesson to her every day until we lost her forever. My mother had passed just two years before at only 60, and now the one person closer than my sister at only 40. I was pretty mad at the world.
Writing 365 Lessons of Hope was a challenge that I held fast to – both in Lexy’s memory, and because I am one stubborn broad (much like her, which would explain our near 30-year friendship). Losing her, I lost the best friend a person could hope for. She was challenging, frustrating, and wise beyond her years. I don’t know if she did it on purpose, but in looking for not only a lesson each day, but how to put a positive spin on what I learned, I was saved from going stark, raving mad with grief.
Lessons from Lexy graced many days that year, and has become a book project.
The 2015 edition of Lessons of Hope was a continuation of that project. I still learned something every day, and one of the things things I learned is how difficult it is to post something daily when you are living from airport to airport and the internet is never a sure thing. I knocked it down to one lesson per week – and, boy, were there some doozies! This was the year I met my real father for the first time, my sister I never knew existed, and an entire family I didn’t know I had. This was the year I traveled more than I ever had in my life, and the year I learned how to say no to things, even if I love them, that aren’t good for me.
2016 is already shaping up to be a doozy, with my new family, two new books published, four books in the works, and a whole new focus on my business and branding. While the lessons may come every other week, I promise they will be just as personal and just as hopeful.
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